The innate need to Bond: Entrainment of Energy

marks 2The innate need to Bond: Entrainment of Energy.

We have, as a species, an innate need to bond, to seek accord with other members of our tribe: humanity. It is a primitive need that drives a lot of things that we do, so when we agree with each other on whatever level there seem to be a sense of peace and harmony. This could be why some of us profoundly avoid confrontation as it alienates us from others. When we do, it often feels like we are temporarily cut off from the Bond that glues us together.

It is interesting to watch an interaction within a group or between 2 individuals. They tend to mimic each other from their facial expression, body language to level of voice pitch. It is almost as if it is a requirement for the ease of communication to take place. The participants in the interaction subtly change their body sensory patterns to be able to receive the information on several levels: the auditory, energetic and visual. Could this explain the entrainment principle?

“The listeners ability to body-map a speaker is inborn: twenty minutes after birth, new-borns possess the ability of an adult to track the sound of speech”(American Journal of Epidemiology 117(1983)

There is an invisible connection taking place between two people when they are deep in conversation. The energy field of both individuals’ meshes in synchrony as if it is coming from one central point. Often one will finish the other’s sentence with absolute clarity and precision. They have connected at a level where their brain structures drives the process. The Nervous system mediates this ability to synchronise.

We mirror each other so well.  When we found ourselves laughing just because someone in your space is doing so, without knowing why, we say that this is a contagious laugh; similarly yawning is so contagious, it only takes a few seconds to activate that function and frankly it is difficult to resist it. We need each other to feel whole, to resonate to an internal beat that says that we are OK. This need, to copy each other in all behaviours so that we feel accepted, is more than just a mental concept. (An extreme form of punishment is isolation in prison- it severs the individual from humanity)

Now, this is also felt in organisations; our place of work, when a colleague is stressed and in a foul mood it affects the tone of communication within the organisation. Sigal Barsade (doctoral degree in the behaviour of organisations and now a professor at the U of Pennsylvania) did an experiment where she managed to demonstrate clearly that ‘emotions are like viruses, not only transferring from person to person in an endless and unconscious circle of contagion, but also profoundly affecting the outcome of business encounters and negotiations”.  Business could be more successful with a good measure of ‘feel good’ vibes which uplifts the employees and creates a virtuous circle. (The Bond  by Lynn McTaggart.)

As we are a community of cells making up an individual that we identify as ‘me’ within a sea of other individuals forming this cohesive bond of humanity; we need to meet socially, to feel connected, to meld with others, to be reminded that we are part of this cohesive bond. And whether we like it or not we are constantly attuned to the emotions of others around us and its effects on our environment in ways that are so subtle but directly affect our well- being and physicality.

“Social stress has been shown to affect the functioning of the hypothalamus-pituitary-adrenal axis, one the body’s ability to fight off disease. The psychologist David Spiegel and his colleagues have found a link between marital discord and negative effects on the cortisol rhythms of the body , which are now considered a risk factor for early cancer mortality” 

extract from The Bond: Lynn McTaggart.

The nature of reality is that our energy field respond to the electromagnetic signals that are picked up by the nervous system who decodes this info into our physiology via a pharmacopeia of chemical reactions that we are not consciously aware of most of the time.  Good or bad vibes from our surroundings affects us all on all levels.

Is it in our interest to ensure the well-being of those around us? It appears that yes,  it is so.

No man is an island.


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